The other day I was asking some questions on a Linux mailing list.
After living for 30 years in Japan, where politeness is (at least it used to !) an essential feature of society and communication, I tried to be polite, assuming a low attitude for myself, on that list too.
That produced “adverse reactions” in that I was told to speak up clearly and come straight to the point.
This IS without doubt a very difficult communication skill …